Aced.

 Intrigued by old film from 1976 Aces high. This film more about impact on crews flying during the first WW1. Easily classic forgotten now, but still relevant.
Community gathering about 30 in total great experience  

Careful negotiations are skills we need to understand.

 So we are looking at communication.
Always difficult 
Encounters are part of our life blood and make us all valuable when we meet others. Listen to others.
Grow and develop with others 
No man is an island no man is a rock.

But when we have to adjust to others views we internally negotiate then open up discussion often observed by many. Hard negation stick then we have to be prepared to take time on learning about others.

Thoughts have to be placed into encounters before we process on building relationships. Conceptually we don't place lot of value on our encounters but happening all the time. From bus stop queue to the networking we do. From conversation at events like football match or deeper conversations in gatherings like Church.

Often see theological negotiations being major problem for discourse. Although essential so much disagreement often breakdown follows. Here feel negotiations are essential. In community youth work we have encounters with people who hold lots of power over groups of children and young people.

These are areas where we can't be uncareless The interest of others has to be at front of our relationship and discussion should show this. Encounters, developing relationship, and careful negotiations are skills we need to understand and constantly practice.

Some suggest that quietness and sense of shalom is difficult.

People when we talk suggest that quietness and sense of shalom is difficult to find 
It can be ...but the practice is necessary if l can as white working class lad from northern coast of UK can find it's pattern. We all can. Sometimes sit in favourite place find this method best. Quietness let it surround myself.

Grab hot drink light candle say 'Lords prayer'. Say some blessing lots around. If struggling play peace of 'ambience music'.....Mody. Fleet Foxes. Clannard.
Light a candle look at piece of art. Think about ACTS. Adoration think about bird flying recognise God in nature trees colours of leaves. Sea crashing on a beach. Shape of peddles.

All simple, think. What's, who has God created. Whose on my mind where are they in LIFES journeys. What are my request for others. What my request for myself.
Deep stuff politics, end to wars, poverty, neighbourhood challenges, family needs, place of Church, Thanks for music media.

After the quiet. Watch news for 15 minutes. Listen to podcast doodle any thoughts.
Now ready to face the day. Or retire for the evening. This works for me.

 To speak ill of others is a dishonest way of praising ourselves. Nothing is often a good thing to say, and always a clever thing to say.

Little less discomfort.

Conversations are not easy when we approach difficult subjects. So we need to develop strategy and approach the matter with some kind of plan. This is where may start to struggle with fact that mechanically we are exploring option to address humans. But when we don't ,

we then potentially because of sometimes 'our desire to softly, softly approach,', difficult conversation explodes or implodes. Often years of broken relationships exist because we didn't look at our options.

AVOID. ... Disagree with those who say avoidance is a card shouldn't pay. Sometimes you might be the best option. Even with the view to return later to the issue. But To avoid also worst option.

DISMISS. To not accept another's view and explain why. Completely not accept the view held by other person or group. It painful recieving allows nothing for construction. Little if anything to build upon.

CONFRONT. This is difficult to me this appears hard. But have to sometimes approach difficult situations by firstly outlining the facts, secondly whilst also demonstrating feelings plus own hurts. Such strategic thinking is not easy but vital if ways forward can be found.

This could be risky.

When we talk openly about ourselves and move to sharing. It can be inevitable that we become vulnerable because that's risky we try to avoid building relationships. Fear that others won't respect us again leads to males especially holding back. Honesty is an issue that shows others we are real people even though carries with it aspects of being very uncomfortable 

The biggest fear researchers suggested when discussing communications is our concern that others when get to hear us is this:- They make not like us. That fear in my view is not justified. When ever witnessed groups that I've led ,'being honest with each other', there is genuinely acceptance of the person speaking.

Seriously believe many of modern illnesses held by young, could be overcome with curriculum education about how to be respectful and genuine about acceptance of others people. Invest in others persons ideals ethics and attitudes.

To be accepted as a real person who honest without worrying about social media image is lacking. Often see young people travelling or sitting in groups not communicating wearing headphones to 'Mullifie' the painful outside world. Comfortable in own music, own fears concerns, targeted by alga rhymes that further damage the mindset.

Not picking up anything from the ' Others' reminds me of John Wyndham's , book the trifords.

WE ARE IN DIFFICULT PERIOD.

 - Jewish leaders co-founded the NAACP in 1909 and funded/led it for generations when no one else would.

- When Dr. King and our people were arrested, beaten, jailed—Jewish lawyers defended us for free, and Jewish money paid bail bonds and court fees while others turned away. - In Freedom Summer '64, half the white volunteers risking death to register Black voters? Jewish. - Rabbi Heschel marched arm-in-arm with MLK in Selma—our struggles linked forever.

Without their blood, treasure, solidarity, and courage—there is no Civil Rights Movement as we know it. No Voting Rights Act. No dream realized.

Many like you and me have the same struggles, possibly same challenges what's confusing myself quite a lot how we came to be allowing false teaching of a death cult so much prominence in Europe while ignoring plight of those damaged killed tortured and imprisoned. Right now we need to prevent another 1930's which is not Parbati but for everyone including the people of Iran. Society in UK feels its full of people schooled into ignoring this issue nor the dangers that becoming very obvious.